Every single engaged couple should participate in premarital counselling. “But Melissa”, you may ask, “we are just starting out in our relationship and we don’t have any problems. Why should we be in counselling already?” Premarital counselling is essential preventative work for every couple to lay a strong foundation for a lifetime together. Even if you are already married or living together, couples programs such as PREP-Enrich can help build your strengths as a couple and work on your areas of growth.
Here are four reasons why premarital and enrichment work is invaluable:
Firstly, with the divorce rate close to 50%, we can’t afford not to take every measure necessary to prevent it. Premarital preparation programs have been shown to decrease the divorce rate by as much as 30%.
Secondly, in premarital counselling you have the opportunity to discuss areas of your relationship that you may not have otherwise talked about. Everything is on the table finances, children, in-laws, household duties, sex, habits, family of origin, personality, etc. You discover your strengths and areas of growth as a couple. Nobody is perfect, and no relationship is perfect. Every single couple can benefit from this proactive work.
Thirdly, premarital counselling helps you to feel happier and be closer in your relationship. You learn critical relationship skills such as communication and conflict resolution that you take with you for a lifetime. Learning these skills early on helps you to manage the inevitable stressors and issues that come up along your journey when it does happen.
Finally, fourth, participating in premarital counselling allows you the opportunity to get familiar with the process of counselling. It then feels familiar, so that if in the future you require intervention, then you already have an idea of what to expect.
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